Determining whether your relationship is close enough can be done by talking!


One is to discuss objective facts.

For example, how is the weather today, have you eaten yet, what do you do ah, the most classic than the sentence what are you doing ah.

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The second is to make an evaluation.

For example, your eyeshadow looks good hey, your outfit today matches well hey, you don't seem to be in a good mood hey.

Evaluation is a risk, but your relationship allows you to risk evaluation in the relationship, indicating the beginning of the depth.

Third is to talk about how you feel about each other.

For example, how I feel about myself, how I think I should be, what you think I should do, and so on. By this point, your relationship has become very intimate.

The fourth is to reveal their hidden feelings.

For example, tell each other the story of your low times, a failed relationship, the saddest thing you've ever experienced, your little secret, etc. By this point you are already honeymooners.

There is a lot of experimental evidence to support this progression of intimacy.

Studies have found that when two subjects are randomly asked to have a conversation, the topic is limited to facts, and the conversation is over, with little relationship to speak of. If the topic had self-revealing emotions and strong emotional expressions, then both strangers were able to maintain contact after the experiment.

Exposing your emotional flaws and dependencies is actually an invitation to others to show that you are open to the relationship, and it is very easy for people to trust you and respond positively to your expressions.

Think about how your relationship with friends, with lovers, with close colleagues step by step, the different stages of your relationship, the topics discussed, you will soon be able to realize this.

The great thing about this process is that you don't need to follow a step-by-step approach. If your relationship is not yet intimate, you can intentionally direct your conversations toward emotional and affective expressions for the purpose of escalating your relationship.

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